Life at 30

At Butchart Gardens in Victoria

We recently came back from my cousin's wedding in Vancouver. We were there for 5 days so we had time to have a little reunion and tour BC. To our surprise, my cousin - who was getting married at the time was 5 months pregnant! What a surprise indeed! It's really hard to fake enthusiasm when you got a shock of your life. I mean what do you say besides "wow you're big!" An advance warning would've been appreciated but we didn't get any of that. We were basically forced into an awkward situation and we couldn't do anything but pretend everything is fine and dandy. What is so bad about letting us know in advance? That we would change our minds and not go? I don't see the reasoning behind it aside from the fact that they may be ashamed of it. One can only feel sorry for themselves long enough before realizing it's not about them anymore. There's a baby inside of you and needs to be taken care of! My cousin is not a teenager anymore she is in her late 20s but the way she handled the situation sure makes her look like one. I understand the shame and disbelief she must be feeling because of what happened to her especially coming from a religious family, but I don't understand why she waited a week before the wedding to tell her family and for her family to let us know when we got there. I expected that kind of behavior from teenagers, not from a girl in her late twenties who's been with her boyfriend for 7 years with full time jobs.